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FPQ #91

This week, on Fandango’s Provocative Question, we’re talking about honestly. The question itself is Is it even possible to live a normal life and to not ever tell a lie? And while I want to say a tentative “Yes” to that question, I don’t think that it’s completely possible. I mean, I think it would might be possible, maybe, but be would be incredibly difficult. I’ve known people who have convinced themselves that they “never lie”, but I think that they are fooling themselves. Lying by omission is still a lie. And rationalizing white lies is still a lie. I honestly and truly believe that one cannot go through a “normal” life and never lie.

Because I honestly believe it’s in human nature to lie. I don’t think it’s something that we’re taught how to do. I think it’s something we’re taught NOT to do. Because toddlers lie until they’re taught not to. Anyone who’s ever had a toddler will know that they lie to stay out of trouble and avoid punishment. Children will also create stories (lie) from their imagination to enrich their world. It’s just what they do. I mean what else is a storyteller but a creative liar?Having said that, there’s a reason why we’re taught as children not to lie. Because most normal people don’t want to be lied to. The same reason we teach them not to bite and/or hit people. Or take things that aren’t theirs. Like, it’s just not socially acceptable.

Comic of boy shouting with the text, "If it can be destroyed by the truth, it deserves to be destroyed by the truth!"

That being said, I try to be as honest as possible as often as possible for the reason mentioned above. I don’t like being lied to, so I don’t lie if I can help it. I do have a habit of exaggerating though. Mostly because I have the heart of a storyteller so I tend to embellish whenever I try to tell a story. The great thing about telling written stories is that I can edit that stuff out — or make it more believable, your call. Ha! But anyone who’s talked to me for any length of time will know that I do tend to… embellish every now and then. I’m not lying on purpose, it’s really just that I am a teller of stories and I want to make whatever I’m saying more palatable to the ear. So whatever I say is mostly true with a few bells and whistles thrown in. ^_^