Here we are again, dear reader. Monday and Melanie’s Share Your World. I’m feeling up to sharing, so let’s do this. 🙂 It may take me some time, but let’s muscle through this together, hey? I didn’t get a lot of sleep last night, so this post may be full of all kinds of grammatical errors and half thoughts. What’s new or different in the world of Willow, right? But be patient with me y’all. I might get to rambling, or something. Who knows? My mind is kind of foggy today. Anyway, on to the questions at hand… As always, head on over to Melanie’s blog to see the links to other people’s answers and the rules to this here “Sharing my World” thingie… in case you’d like to participate too.
Is it necessary to trust someone you like? (friends, acquaintances or co-workers with whom you have no familial ties) I’d prefer to trust the people in my life. I don’t have to trust them if they’re acquaintances or co-workers. But I do need to know if I can trust them or not so I understand how to interact with them — whether to entrust them with secrets or not. The only time trust is absolutely necessary for me is if someone is a friend or closer. So, I must-need trust my inner circle. With everyone else, trust is nice, but not necessary. In other words, and to answer the question directly, I don’t have to trust someone in order to like them.
Do you hold grudges? What do you do when someone really irritates you? Those are two separate questions… I don’t hold grudges because I don’t want someone living rent free in my mind. Okay, I try not to hold grudges, but I am human after all, and I have been angry with people for longer than I probably should have, and that is what a grudge is — to be angry with someone (or a situation) far longer than is necessary. I don’t believe I’ve been angry with anyone for as long as a year, because — like I said — I don’t want anyone to stay rent free in my head that long. But, like anyone else, if I remember something that happened a long time ago, I might be mad about it for a minute, but I’ll get over it. I can’t conceive of holding on to hatred or anger for any amount of time, actually. Like, I know people who are my age who are still angry about things that happened in high school. That is holding a grudge. I don’t do that. I very much live in the Now. The past is the past and nothing will change what happened in the past, especially being upset or hurt about it. So I just don’t. Now, the second part of this question, people who irritate me, well I do my best to avoid them. If I can’t avoid them, well I try to ignore them. If I can’t ignore them, I guess I just deal with them the best that I can. Just, I’ve had a few “bitch eating crackers” people in my life. And I know that I’ve been (and probably am) the bitch eating crackers in other people’s lives, but what can you do? Not everyone is going to get along and that’s just a fact of life. The only thing I can do whenever I have someone like that in my life is avoid or deal. So that’s what I do.
What’s the most sensible thing you’ve heard someone say? Nothing comes to mind. I’m really bad at answering these kinds of questions. So many people have said sensible things to me that it’s difficult to pick from all of them. I wait for one particular thing to rise to the top and nothing ever does. It’s why I have trouble with “What’s your favorite…?” questions.
Is crying a sign of weakness or strength in adults? Neither. Crying, is a sign of being human. It’s what we do to release pent up emotions. Some people cry easier than others and some people “don’t cry.” I shed a few tears last night at a particularly emotional scene in the video I was watching, and I’ll cry reading a story. I’ve cried at Hallmark commercials. But during difficult times in my life? I hold it together pretty well for a long time because it’s how I was raised, to not “get emotional” or there would be consequences. “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about,” was often said in our house. Plus, as an adult, I had kids and I needed to keep my emotions in check when the shit hit the fan because kids feed off of the emotions of their parents. If the parents are freaking out, the kids are gonna freak out, and I rarely wanted to deal with a bunch of hysterical kids. So yeah, I don’t break down whenever things get tough. Not until I deem it safe to do so. Does that make me strong? I dunno. I’ve been told so. I just think it’s a product of my toxic upbringing.
What small things were you grateful for this week?
As a lot of y’all might know, the Bernie Sanders meme is viral this week. It’s been all over my Facespace as several of my friends have embraced this meme with open arms. Worry not, dear reader. Bernie Sanders has also embraced the meme. He put it on a sweatshirt and turned into a charity. If you’re interested, here is an interesting article about the hows and whys we as a society have made this the latest viral meme. I think it’s a pretty harmless meme, and for once in a long time, it’s not political. It’s just good fun. Anyway, this is the one I’ve liked the most. It makes me giggle every time. I think it’s funnier if you’re familiar with the original meme, but it makes me smile.
And that’s it. I’m tired now, and it’s almost lunch time, so I’m gonna leave it at that. If I get some more energy I’ll proofread this better, but for now, hopefully there aren’t too many mistakes. Take care, y’all, and remember to go over to Melanie’s blog to see the links to other people’s answers and thank her for hosting the questions.