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Mother’s Day Thoughts

Today is Mother’s Day here in the states. I think it’s a holiday that’s not celebrated much of anywhere else. So far as I know, it’s an American holiday, and much of the rest of the world raises its eyebrows at us and says, “A holiday to celebrate your mum? Isn’t that every day?” or something along those lines. I’ve read that even the person who suggested the holiday in the first place wanted to take back her suggestion when she saw how commercial the day had become. Let me look that up… Yep, here’s a brief article about that. I, myself, don’t really celebrate Mother’s Day. My mother and I rarely got along at the best of times, and we’ve been estranged for decades now. When I had young children, my first husband tried his best to “do” the Mother’s Day thing, but he wasn’t very good at it. And as my kids got older, they, much like myself, weren’t into the celebration thing when it comes to these holidays that everyone else seems to throw themselves into, so I never got upset if they forgot about Mother’s Day, because more often than not, I did too. It’s more difficult to forget nowadays because it’s all over the freakin’ internet with ads in my face everywhere… Don’t forget MOM this weekend for Mother’s Day! Like, give me a break, internet. I get it.

Anyway, all of that being said, there is a mom I want to recognize today because she has played a significant role in my life these past few years. A much bigger role than my own mom has, that’s fersure. That’s Doug’s mom (name withheld for privacy reasons). And I don’t say that just because she happens to be the mother of my husband. My first husband had a mom too, and she and I hated each other. Like, “she’s not welcome in my house” hated each other. But that’s a different story for a different time. It’s been a long time since my first husband and I were married, and I haven’t had her in my life since our divorce except whenever I needed to interreact with her for the kids’ sake. Even that’s been… decades. So I don’t even care about her anymore. My second husband had a mom, and I rarely ever spoke to her. It wasn’t because I didn’t like her or anything, I mean, we barely met. I knew his brother more than his parents. My second husband’s mother had no influence in my life at all. But they’re in the past, dear reader, and I’m not one to dwell in the past.

No, dear reader, today I’m talking about Doug’s mom, and she’s a doll. Doug absolutely loves his mom, and she loves him. In the many years that I’ve been married to Doug, his mom has been nothing but nice to me, and I appreciate that. So I want to give a shout out to my mom-in-law on this Mother’s Day. I’m not a gift-giving type of person. I never have been. Well, if I live with a person, I buy them things on the regular, but for holidays? I’m just not the kind of person to buy presents, cards, or stuff like that. But I want Doug’s mom to know that I appreciate her. I always have, since I started dating him, and I always will. Even when it’s not Mother’s Day. But, since we have this day to show appreciation for moms, I’ll take it and say:

Photo by Karolina Grabowska from Pexels edited in Photoshop by me.

Thanks for everything you do for us, Doug’s mom (name withheld for privacy reasons). Your love and affection does not go unnoticed. I miss our lunches and look forward to the end of this pandemic so we can get together again. I know that Doug feels the same.

6 thoughts on “Mother’s Day Thoughts

  1. That’s lovely! I liked my mother-in-law too but didn’t ever get to know her well. She was a kind woman and thoughtful etc, but not really maternal per se. They also didn’t ever stick around and just visit, they’d come by for an hour and be on the road again within the hour. They did that with everyone though, so I never felt slighted. I’m glad your M-I-L is a lovely woman whom you consider a friend as well! Happy Mother’s Day to you too!

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    1. Thanks, Melanie. My mom-in-law is a doll. We haven’t seen each other in a while because of the plague, but she and Doug keep in touch. Neither of us are phone talkers, but I know she reads this blog, which is why I wrote the post. 🙂

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  2. Mother’s Day isn’t just American as far as I know. It’s celebrated today here in the Netherlands too and in the UK, it’s in March. That bbeing said, I totally understand how you feel about both its commercialism and having to honor your mother when you’ve been estranged. I am still in contact with my mother but we don’t have the greatest relationship either. Thankfully, she doesn’t really care about Mother’s Day.

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